Thursday, April 20, 2017
Castles in the Sand
Coming from the hot, dry climate of Northern California where temperatures in the summer (May-October) soar upwards of 100 degrees regularly, I can honestly say that I've always loved the rain. The city I hail from has an average of 249 sunny days, with only 52 days of rain each year, according to one source. In other words, rain was a rare treat and I loved every moment of it. I’ve lived in the Pacific Northwest for almost three years now, and I will make the bold claim that I truly never grow tired of the rain. True, the darkness of the skies can get old after a while, but I see beauty in the abundance of brilliant green grasses and the clinging moss that finds its way onto most surfaces. To me, the darkness is worth it. Rain causes growth and it helps me to appreciate the sun more – something that I took for granted while living in California. I don’t mean to be cliché, but it seems like those vastly different weather patterns reflect what’s going on inside my heart.
Lately, I’ve been meeting a friend in a local coffee shop each week to discuss sharing the Gospel. Last week, we addressed the issue of suffering by asking the common question, “Why would a good God allow suffering?” If I’m honest, the question was as much for me as it might be for a hypothetical unbeliever wrestling with the issue. As you know, my husband and I lost our baby at eight weeks last September, and it feels like we’ve been under the weight of trial after trial since. I have biblical truths that I hold firm to during the pain and struggle, but sometimes my belief is shaky at best – something I believe with my head, but not with my heart.
By now, it seems that I can get through most days with a positive attitude, but there is still a great sorrow in my heart as I ache for that little one that I should have delivered earlier this month. Without going in to detail, our budget is so tight I feel like we’re being strangled slowly. There are also things of a darker nature in my heart that I try so desperately to conceal. On mornings like these, when the sky is dark and the rain pours outside my window, I stop to think and it all comes rushing back. I’m so angry. I’m so tired of hearing other happy pregnant moms talk about how hard it is to be pregnant. I want to rail at them and at God, just to remind them that I remember what it’s like to be sick, to feel a million foreign aches in my body as my baby grew, to feel so tired I didn’t want to move, to crave roasted red peppers and sushi, and to have to use the bathroom excessively. I also remember vividly the horrors of delivering that little one far too soon and the emptiness in my body for the next several weeks afterward.
It’s easy to look at God and ask Him why. Why would He take our baby? Why won’t He give us another? Why doesn’t He just make life a little easier on us so that we have enough money to keep basic staples in our pantry? Why can’t our cars just work properly for a few weeks? Doesn’t He care? Does He see how hard I’m trying to make this all work?
The answer is simple. Yes. Yes, He sees. He is the God who sees me (Genesis 16:3). God is not indifferent. He, being rich in love and mercy, hurts with me (John 11:33-36). He is not a cruel God toying with human experiments, but a loving Father. He CARES. I am not His victim. My anger and cynicism were not created by this thing He allowed. They were there all along. Glen Scrivener describes this as “Hell in our hearts,” and to that I say amen! If I had not experienced this, I would not have had my sin exposed. There was anger and rebellion pent up in my heart, waiting to pounce on God the moment something in life stopped going my way. This morning, I wept as I thought of this. I asked out loud, “How could You love me, God? You knew I was angry. You knew I’d blame You even though You’ve been so good to me.” In the turbulence of my thoughts, I realized that He loved me when I was a comfortable little hypocrite, trusting in my works, knowing that I have always been a “good girl” and building foolish castles in the sand and painting white picket fences in the sunset. He tore me asunder and exposed what was already inside me as His waves crashed over me, sweeping away my idols and dreams as He taught me a deeper love for and reliance upon Him. As my heart draws closer to Him, I am reminded that this is not the first time He has brought forth life from death!
My dreams, however justified, are nothing if they are in the way of my Savior’s glory. As C.S. Lewis wrote, “It would seem that our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” My dreams are filled with self. I want things that make life comfortable as I cozy up to a broken, fallen world that is coming to a sure end. Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying that my desire for a child is wrong, but my dependence upon having one for my own happiness and self-fulfillment is. God, rather than patching up my brokenness and allowing my stinking, festering attitude inside to spread while catering to my whims, has wrenched me apart and exposed the disease inside so that He might bring healing.
It hurts endlessly, but He is good. He has brought life to the dry bones of my apathy. It is painful to be refined by God, but it is good and His love and care are evident daily as He surrounds me with people who extend His love and grace to me daily. I am sorrowful, yet always rejoicing (2 Cor. 6:10), filled with hope as I set my gaze upon Christ. He satisfies me. Even through the storms, I can praise Him for what He is accomplishing. He washes and refreshes me as He brings forth growth. He fills my heart with new dreams, with better dreams. His mercy and grace, like the sunshine, are so much more real to me now that I have known the rain.
”Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith— that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.”Philippians 3:8-11
Saturday, February 18, 2017
I'm Not There Yet
Thursday, December 1, 2016
Let Light Shine Out Of Darkness
Friday, November 4, 2016
Those Who Have Walked in Darkness Have Seen a Great Light
Two months have passed and I already feel like it’s not okay to cry anymore. I’m not allowed to talk about it.
Saturday, July 2, 2016
Father, Break My Heart
Saturday, January 25, 2014
"As Christ Loved the Church..."
Has anyone else noticed the current trend within the church that encourages us to essentially hate and write off the Church for her many shortcomings? I have, and it saddens me. While I have to admit that we haven't been the perfect example of Christ's love over the centuries, we are those who Christ loved and gave Himself for (Eph. 5:25).
Too often we expect perfection from those who are mere sinners, saved from eternal wrath by the blood of a loving Savior. We nitpick every fault and claim her to be totally ineffective for Christ. This isn't our calling, nor our purpose! God created us to rely on one another though Him, to strengthen each other and to make up for each other's weaknesses. We are precious to God, not only as individuals but also as a whole. How dare we be so arrogant as to call what has been made clean by the blood of Christ something filthy or something to be ashamed of?
The truth is, we're all filthy, stained, and wretched. It is Jesus who makes the difference. I love my Savior, and I therefore pledge myself to love His body, His bride. I love the people of God, and I'm sorry to say I've been one of those who mocked and ridiculed the Church. She may not be perfect, but she is loved by Christ. That is all I need to know.
Wednesday, August 7, 2013
My Not-So-Secret Identity
After running into an old friend from high school this evening, I've realized what a different person I've become in four short years. I'm not sharing this for my own glorification. Any positive change that has taken place in this small life can only be attributed to my Savior and His work in my heart. I think it took me a long time to discover "the meaning of life" as well as how to live with that purpose in mind, but I'm getting ahead of myself.
I'll never forget the inexplicable depression I felt each morning as I trudged up the stairs and made my way to my first period English class, even though it feels like another lifetime. Sometimes I'd lay my head on my desk and let a few tears slip for no reason at all. I drew strange doodles and wrote depressing poems to alleviate my pain. It all seems so silly now, but still so real.
The worst time of all was my choir's annual Coast Trip. Ordinarily, it was something that I looked forward to all school year. My senior year was different. I dreaded it completely. I had two or three friends in particular who always had a knack for dressing and acting the right way to get every guy's attention. Me? Not so much. They offered to fix my hair and do my makeup. I always felt like it was out of pity. I had very short, unbecoming hair, I dressed mostly in black, and I was a tad chubby. My worst fears were confirmed one night as three of us were boarding together for the evening. My friends were discussing different kissing methods. Before that, I hadn't even realized that there might be more than one way to do it. As I was beginning to doze off, I heard one of them say,"Poor Kim. She doesn't even know what it's like to be kissed." That hurt, at the time. In hindsight, the whole thing is pretty laughable considering the fact that neither of them married the boyfriends that they were discussing. Right then, it didn't matter. I only knew that I was completely undesirable and that my friends literally felt sorry for me.
A little over a year later, I spent the greatest summer of my life in a very different place. I began to read the bible for myself-- not just to read it, but to hunger for it. It was exciting, epic even! I also read a book by John Piper (Don't Waste Your Life) that opened my eyes for the first time as to what my purpose for living might be. All the time I had been struggling with my lack of identity. I longed for something, some unknown part of me to be discovered, to make me beautiful. I wanted to feel that sense of being important and irreplaceable to someone. I was just beginning to catch the first glimpses of that in Christ, as I revealed in a song I wrote at that summer camp, a song I simply named, "Satisfy"
I lift my heart, I raise these hands
To worship You, to worship only You
There's nothing else 'cause no other love
Compares to the one you poured out on us
Only You, only You, Jesus
Only You can satisfy
Only You, only You, Jesus
Only You can satisfy
So take my heart and take these hands
I'll worship You, I'll worship only You
There's nothing else 'cause no other love
Compares to the One you gave on the cross
It was simple and to the point. Even so, I had (and still have) a lot to learn. Fast forward a year, and I've just ended the worst relationship I could have imagined. The "boyfriend" I thought might soothe the lack of love I felt cheated on me, and I felt more worthless and hopeless than I could have ever imagined. I had never realized why girls cried when they broke up with guys. I always rolled my eyes and thought, "Get over it." Time passed, yet the whole ugliness of it wouldn't go away. Not for a long while, anyway. Slowly, gradually, I began to get it. I began to surrender. Over a year later, my prayer became, "Not my will, but Yours be done."
When I prayed that prayer in a new place, both literally and figuratively, I never imagined that I'd be engaged to the most wonderful young man I'd ever met a year and a half later. I never imagined that God had something good and beautiful in store. He had a plan for wholeness. You see, I had literally given up to the point of deciding to become a missionary and remain single, not because I felt undesirable, but because I didn't want those things anymore. The "love" I had received was superficial, weak, and conditional. I knew that God's love wasn't any of those things.
When I see myself now, I'll be the first to admit that I'm far, very far from perfect. I'm a broken human being, just like the rest, yet God has done something miraculous. He took away the confusion. My identity, the one I searched so hard for and never really found, had to die. I'm no longer Kimberly Cordell. I'm a daughter of the Most High God! He loves me, and He knew I'd be satisfied only when His purpose for my life became something I understood, longed for, and fought for. I was born to proclaim His greatness! In doing so, He gave me a new mind, new desires, and a new self. I'm not my own, because He died for me. My life has been hidden with Jesus.
Colossians 3:3
For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.
Galatians 2:20
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Living for the Glory of God
What is the one thing that excites you the most?
Saturday, September 29, 2012
My Calling
Later this morning, I was sitting at Starbucks drinking a vanilla chai latte, reading Worship Matters by Bob Kauflin, when I stumbled across the page that you see pictured.
Is that crazy or what?"
To the desperate eyes and reaching hands
To the suffering and the lean
To the ones the world has cast aside
Where you want me I will be
I will go, I will go
I will go, Lord send me
To the world, To the lost
To the poor and hungry
Take everything I am
I'm clay within your hands
I will go, I will go, send me
Let me not be blind with privilege
Give me eyes to see the pain
Let the blessing You've poured out on me
Not be spent on me in vain
Let this life be used for change
I wanna live for you
Go where you lead me
I wanna follow you
-I Will Go by Starfield"
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So God, I know what You want. The question is where, how, and when.
Here I am. Send me."
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
All You Need Is...Love???
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases. Song of Solomon 8:4